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Married to an unbelieving spouse, or to a spouse who claims Christ but doesn't obey His Word? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith answer a listener's question about being unequally yoked and share four biblical steps for the believing spouse. Get God's perspective, because He cares about your holiness more than your happiness and loves your spouse even more than you do. Don't leave, since 1 Corinthians 7 says an unbelieving spouse can be won. Pray for their salvation and for your own endurance and peace, because only God changes hearts. And be...

What should a Christian couple do after a fight? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith answer a listener's question, admitting they had just had a hard conversation themselves before recording. They explain why fighting should be uncommon in a Christian marriage, because walking in the Spirit makes it nearly impossible, and share biblical action steps for reconciling when a fight does happen. Live as a new creation, putting off anger and putting on love (Colossians 3, Ephesians 4). Act as ambassadors of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5). Don't let the sun go down on...

How do you stop bickering with your spouse? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith open with a tongue-in-cheek list of bickering tactics, like slamming doors, keeping a detailed list of wrongs, and never giving verbal affirmation, before admitting these are things they have actually struggled with. Then they get serious about where bickering comes from and how to stop it biblically. James 4 says quarrels come from passions at war within us, and Galatians 5 warns that those who bite and devour one another will be consumed. They share how to walk in...

How do you keep a strong marriage after having kids? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith answer listener and viewer questions about having a healthy biblical marriage after children, speaking from their own experience of raising three kids with another on the way. The foundation is a biblical perspective that children are a blessing and a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127), not a burden, along with the right family order: Christ first, then your spouse, then your children, then everyone else. They talk about keeping intimacy a priority with little ones at...

Looking for Bible verses to pray over your spouse? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith each share five Scriptures they like to pray for each other, ten verses in all, to encourage you and your spouse to pray with and for each other every day. They explain that praying the Word is a spiritual practice, not something magical, and walk through verses including Proverbs 3:5-6 on trusting the Lord, Ephesians 5:22-33 on marriage roles, Isaiah 41:10 on not fearing, Galatians 5:22-24 on the fruit of the Spirit, and 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 on standing...

Is your marriage your first ministry? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith share from a chapter of the book they were writing at the time to encourage husbands and wives to see marriage as the first place they practice what the Bible teaches. Your spouse is your closest neighbor, so neglecting your marriage while serving others outside the home is hypocrisy. Drawing from Ephesians 5 and 1 Timothy 3:5, they explain that marriage is an earthly picture of Christ and the church, and a fractured marriage preaches a false gospel. When a marriage...

Want to get out of debt as a couple? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith share how they paid off $20,000 of student-loan debt in about a year and a half, and give seven tips grounded in Proverbs 22:7, which says the borrower is slave to the lender. Get on the same page and budget together. Stop using credit cards and accumulating debt. Sell extra stuff. Use your giftings, like the weekend photography they did. Work hard in seasons. Be content; they drove one car for ten years and Aaron biked to work....

Are you a liar in your marriage? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith talk about how lying, both big lies and little lies, can easily get overlooked even though it affects marriage in big ways. They look at what Scripture says, from the ninth commandment in Exodus 20:16 to Ephesians 4:25, and share personal examples of small lies in their own marriage, like Jennifer exaggerating about teaching the kids to brush their teeth every day and Aaron saying he is right around the corner when he is just leaving. They explain how lying...

How do you make the most of summer family outings? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith share how their family does weekly scheduled adventure days, and why putting outings on the calendar is what actually makes them happen. Whether you're going to the pool or the beach, the mountains or the lake, they encourage couples to see these outings as memory-building and teamwork rather than relaxation, and to prepare their hearts so they don't get in the way of their family's peace and joy. Aaron admits to being a stick in the mud...

Are you escaping the hard things in your marriage? In this episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron and Jennifer Smith talk about why marriage is hard, why the Bible promises we will face trials, and why running from them only makes things worse. They confess they became escape artists early in their marriage, using good things like missionary travel, plus Jennifer's Twilight and romance novels and Aaron's pornography, to hide from sexual issues, anger, and bitterness instead of confronting them. Tying escapism back to Adam and Eve hiding in the garden in Genesis 3, they warn that hiding...