How to Bicker with Your Spouse

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About This Episode At the start of this episode, Aaron and Jennifer share their favorite tips on how to bicker with your spouse. Of course, they're playing. The real intention is to identify why married couples bicker and to help you learn how to stop in a biblical way. They confess they used to bicker all the time, share the car ride when a friend asked Aaron if he realized how he was talking to his wife, and explain how their kids now act as little alarms around the house. From James 4, Galatians 5, and the words of Jesus in Luke 6, they show that bickering comes from the flesh and from what is stored up in the heart, and that it's really a devouring of one another.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode The 'how to bicker' tactics — slammed doors, a list of wrongs, and never letting your spouse have the last word Why we bicker — James 4 and the passions at war within us Bickering is devouring — Galatians 5 and walking in the flesh versus walking in the Spirit Called out by a friend — the car ride that showed Aaron how he was talking to his wife Kids as alarms — why repenting to your children matters when they hear you bicker Quick to hear, slow to speak — James 1:19 and really listening instead of waiting to respond A soft answer — Proverbs 15:1 and Proverbs 17:14 on stopping strife before it bursts The heart behind the words — Luke 6:45 and asking God to reveal and change the root

Scripture Referenced James 4:1-2 Galatians 5:13-26 James 1:19-20 Proverbs 15:1 Proverbs 17:14 Luke 6:43-45

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