What To Do After a Fight

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About This Episode Fights are more common in Christian marriages than they should be. Prompted by a listener's question, and honest that they had just had a hard conversation of their own before hitting record, Aaron and Jennifer explain why fighting should be a rare occurrence for a husband and wife walking in the Spirit. When a fight does break out, the goal is reconciliation, unity, and oneness. They walk through the biblical steps that help them get there: remembering who you are in Christ, pursuing reconciliation instead of winning, not letting the sun go down on anger, confessing and praying together out loud, letting go of the record of wrongs, and even holding hands to reconnect.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Why fighting should be rare — walking in the Spirit makes a fight nearly impossible Live as a new creation — putting off anger and putting on love from Colossians 3 and Ephesians 4 Ambassadors of reconciliation — what 2 Corinthians 5 means for a husband and wife after conflict Don't let the sun go down on your anger — pausing a conversation while still reconciling the relationship Confess and pray together — praying out loud with each other, as James 5:16 describes No record of wrongs — letting 1 Corinthians 13 love shape how you move forward Physical touch — holding hands to reconnect the physical to the spiritual

Scripture Referenced Colossians 3 Ephesians 4 2 Corinthians 5 James 5:16 1 Corinthians 13

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