Can I Fall Out Of Love In My Marriage?

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About This Episode Is love something we can fall in and out of? Can I still be in love if I don't feel like it? What if I'm not happy in my marriage anymore? In this episode we tackle those questions head on. Drawing from Gary Thomas's book Sacred Marriage, we explain why the phrase 'falling out of love' is so deceptive: it takes choice and responsibility out of love and leaves us at the mercy of our feelings. We look at the most common reasons couples feel love has faded, and then point to Jesus in Gethsemane as the model of a love that chooses commitment. The opposite of biblical love isn't hate, it's apathy.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode The myth of falling out of love — how the phrase strips love of choice and responsibility Feelings vs. commitment — can you still love when you don't feel like it? Tough times and unmet needs — why hard seasons can make love feel gone Unmet expectations and discontentment — how they quietly erode a marriage Chasing happiness and comfort — why they make a poor foundation for love Love modeled in Gethsemane — choosing an aggressive, committed love like Christ's Fighting apathy — pursuing intimacy, keeping an eternal perspective, and practicing discipline The gospel is at stake — remembering what your marriage represents

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