We Had A Sexless Marriage: Our Personal Story Of How God Saved Our Marriage

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About This Episode In this episode we share our personal struggle with physical intimacy in the first four and a half years of our marriage. We thought we had done everything right by saving ourselves for marriage and believed God owed us a healthy sex life, but painful intercourse meant we couldn't consummate our marriage. We talk honestly about broken expectations, the sexual sin we each brought into marriage, the doctor visits, the bitterness, and how prayer kept us going. Then we share the turning point, when God reminded Aaron of Jesus in Gethsemane, and the surprising discovery that changed everything for us physically. Listen and see how God used this trial to draw us closer to Himself and to each other.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Expectations — Saving ourselves for marriage and believing God owed us a good sex life. The honeymoon — Realizing on our wedding night that intercourse wasn't going to work. Hidden sin — How Aaron's pornography struggle masked the weight of what we were facing. Four and a half years — Doctors who said nothing was wrong, growing bitterness, and living like roommates. Prayer — Why praying together kept us anchored even when our hearts were hard. Gethsemane — The moment Aaron chose to love Jennifer like Christ loves the church, no matter what. The face wash — Removing parabens and being able to be together without pain within a week. Still learning — Why becoming lovers is a lifelong journey and how to walk through setbacks together.

Scripture Referenced Ephesians 5:25 Romans 8:28 Jesus' prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane ("not My will, but Yours be done")

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