15 Marriage Devotional: Anger

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About This Episode Anger and fear are part of how God designed us, but when they go unchecked they can take control of our homes and damage our marriages. In this devotional, we get honest about our own struggles: Aaron with anger, especially when he feels disrespected, and Jennifer with fear and anxiety. We talk about how fear in one spouse can trigger anger in the other and disrupt communication. We look at how God is both righteous in His anger and slow to anger and rich in mercy, and at Scripture's call to self-control. We also discuss when anger can be rightly directed at sin and injustice, and how 2 Timothy 1:7 answers our fears.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Emotions by design — anger and fear were created for good but become destructive when unchecked Honest confessions — Aaron's struggle with anger and Jennifer's with fear and anxiety Disrespect as a trigger — why feeling disrespected can spark anger How fear fuels anger — the way one spouse's fear can trigger the other's anger and disrupt communication God's example — righteous anger paired with mercy, slow to anger Self-control — Ephesians 4:26, Proverbs 29:11, and James 1:19-20 Rightly directed anger — being angry at sin and injustice instead of at each other Freedom from fear — 2 Timothy 1:7 and a spirit of power, love, and self-control Know your triggers — recognizing emotional triggers so you can respond instead of react

Scripture Referenced Ephesians 4:26 Proverbs 29:11 James 1:19-20 2 Timothy 1:7

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