10 Marriage Devotional: What Are We Fighting For?

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About This Episode Conflict is a normal part of marriage, but it's easy to start seeing each other as the enemy. In this devotional, we talk about the deeper spiritual layers behind the tension couples feel. Scripture reminds us the real battle is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces and the desires of our own flesh. We look at how deception, accusation and temptation creep into our hearts and pull us away from unity, how our posture and body language often say more than our words, and what it looks like to disarm a fight with humility and prayer. As we like to say, even if you win the argument, you still lose at the relationship, so let's learn to fight the good fight together.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Who the real enemy is — why the battle is spiritual and against our flesh, not our spouse Pride and insolence — what happens when we treat each other as the enemy The enemy's tactics — deception, accusation and temptation Heart posture and body language — eye-rolls and crossed arms versus the woman who poured costly oil on Jesus Stop strife early — holding your tongue before an argument escalates Pray in the middle of it — inviting each other and the Holy Spirit into the moment Root causes, not darts — addressing what is really going on Trusting God to judge justly — letting go of the need to win

Scripture Referenced Ephesians 6 — our battle is not against flesh and blood Proverbs 13:10 — insolence brings nothing but strife The woman who poured costly oil on Jesus — a picture of a humble heart posture

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