03 Marriage Devotional: Distinct yet complementary roles of a husband and wife

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About This Episode In week three of our 30-week devotional series through Husband After God and Wife After God, we look at the distinct yet complementary roles God gives husbands and wives. Aaron opens with Jesus washing the disciples' feet and asks husbands whether we think we are greater than our Master. He describes servant leadership as leading by example rather than by force: initiating reconciliation, leading family Bible time, and being gentle and understanding, like a dance lead who cues his partner instead of yanking her. Jennifer talks about the wife's call to be a helper and companion, admits she once had a one-sided view of companionship, and shares the story of washing Aaron's feet after he returned from a mission trip. Together we reframe Ecclesiastes 4 around each spouse walking closely with God, with your spouse as the third cord.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Jesus washing feet — Why a servant is not greater than his master, and what that means for husbands and all Christians. Servant leadership — Leading as Christ leads the Church, by example and not by force. Leadership at home — Initiating reconciliation, leading family Bible time, and living with your wife in an understanding way. The swing-dance picture — How a good lead cues his partner instead of yanking her. The wife as helper and companion — Supporting, encouraging, and praying for your husband. A changed view of companionship — Jennifer's story of washing Aaron's feet after his mission trip. The third cord — Reframing Ecclesiastes 4 around each spouse walking with God. Communication and quality time — How trust and intimacy grow as you both pursue God individually and together.

Scripture Referenced John 13 1 Peter 3:7 Ecclesiastes 4

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