Healing & Transformation In Marriage w/ Roy Wooten

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About This Episode Aaron talks with Roy Wooten of The Crucible Project about vulnerability, confession, and the healing God brings into marriage. Roy describes a 2009 retreat where grace moved from his head into every cell of his body as God met him in a wound from when he was five years old and the lie that he was unlovable. He gets practical about conflict: how to get un-triggered by burning off cortisol somewhere else, how to see the hurting little girl in a triggered wife, and how to take responsibility for your own part. Roy explains why so many men carry an invisible backpack of secrets and live isolated, and why confession breaks sin's stronghold. As he puts it, it's hard to believe somebody really loves you if they don't know the truth about you.

About Roy Wooten Roy Wooten is a counselor and the executive director of The Crucible Project, a ministry helping men heal, grow, and build meaningful community. He has been married for 37 years and is a grandfather, and he teaches men how to handle marital conflict, break out of isolation, and find freedom through confession and grace.

In This Episode Grace that goes deep — How a 2009 retreat moved grace from Roy's head into every part of him. Healing old wounds — Confronting the childhood lie that he was unlovable. Getting un-triggered — Burning off cortisol before you try to resolve conflict. Seeing your wife's hurt — Recognizing the hurting little girl behind a triggered reaction. Owning your part — Taking responsibility in marital conflict. The invisible backpack — The secrets men carry and the isolation they create. Confession and healing — How James 5:16 breaks sin's stronghold. Safe community — Why men need safe spaces like The Crucible Project to grow.

Scripture Referenced James 5:16

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