Motherhood, Identity, & the Gospel w/ Vicki Courtney

Show notes

About This Episode Aaron welcomes bestselling author and speaker Vicki Courtney to share wisdom from her new book, Motherhood Is Not Your Highest Calling: The Grace of Being a Good Enough Mom. Vicki explains how, prompted in part by her daughter's grief over infertility, she realized she had once written the opposite and could find no Scripture to back it. Together they explore how moms can resist the pressure of social media and mom influencers, stop playing the Christian pretender game, and avoid idolizing marriage and motherhood in ways that leave singles and those facing infertility feeling less than. Vicki also shares why she and her husband put marriage before kids, the value of simple living, and why our identity starts as children of God.

About Vicki Courtney Vicki Courtney is a speaker, bestselling author, wife of 38 years, and mom of three grown children. She became a Christian at 21 after years as an agnostic, and for more than 25 years in ministry she has encouraged women to pursue biblical truth in a modern world. Her latest book is Motherhood Is Not Your Highest Calling: The Grace of Being a Good Enough Mom.

In This Episode A change of mind — Why Vicki wrote a book challenging a view she once held. Identity in Christ — Finding who you are as a child of God before any role. Mom-influencer comparison — Navigating mom guilt and social media pressure. The Christian pretender game — Letting go of the need to look like you have it all together. Less than — Why singles and couples facing infertility should never feel second-class in the church. Marriage before kids — Prioritizing your marriage in the parenting years, including date nights without kid talk. Simple living — How decluttering and slowing down make room for what matters. Faith-filled conversations — Talking with your kids about what really matters.

Scripture Referenced 2 Corinthians 10:12 — The danger of comparing ourselves with one another

Resources from This Episode Vicki Courtney: vickicourtney.com Motherhood Is Not Your Highest Calling Instagram: @vickicourtney Shop Marriage After God books and devotionals Full show notes and blog post

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