Pray Instead of Changing, Finding Restoration After Infidelity, Building Authentic Community - w/ Amanda Hayhurst

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About This Episode Aaron sits down with Amanda Hayhurst, seminary graduate and author of Pray for Him, to talk about prayer, restoration, and community. After infidelity early in their marriage, her husband Marcus had biblical grounds to leave, but a sermon on restoring marriages and a godly community kept them together. Amanda shares how father wounds and the lies she believed drove her neediness, and how surrender brought healing. When her son Reese was diagnosed with leukemia, she had to stop numbing with wine and feel her feelings, and she experienced God's presence in the middle of it. Her core message is simple: stop trying to be the Holy Spirit in your husband's life, and shift your focus from fix and control to surrender and prayer.

About Amanda Hayhurst Amanda Hayhurst is a seminary graduate and the author of the self-published book Pray for Him. Her marriage was restored after infidelity, and she writes about surrendering control, praying for your spouse, healing from father wounds, and finding your identity in Christ.

In This Episode Restoration after infidelity — how a sermon on restoring marriages and godly community kept Amanda and Marcus together. Stop playing Holy Spirit — why trying to change your spouse creates frustration instead of change. From fix and control to surrender and prayer — the shift at the heart of Pray for Him. Father wounds and lies — how old wounds fueled neediness and how surrender brought healing. Suffering and dependence — walking through her son Reese's leukemia diagnosis. Feeling instead of numbing — bringing emotions to God rather than numbing them. Advice or listening — discerning when to speak and when to simply listen. Authentic community — why it was crucial to their marriage surviving.

Resources from This Episode Pray for Him by Amanda Hayhurst Amanda Hayhurst's website @amandahayhurstwrites on Instagram Shop Marriage After God Full show notes and blog post

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