Biblical Marriage Roles, A Fresh Perspective on God's Design - Interview With Michael and Tania Koehler

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About This Episode Michael and Tania Koehler were only three months into their marriage when they were asked to lead a marriage ministry. More than 11 years later, they have learned to teach from both their strengths and their weaknesses. In this conversation, they share a fresh look at biblical marriage roles from Ephesians 5, Colossians 3, and 1 Peter 3, where husbands lead and love sacrificially and wives submit and respect, and they tie those roles back to Genesis 3 and the curse Christ reverses. Michael describes a quiet battle between his flesh and the Spirit that Tania misread, and the Koehlers explain why being quick to listen, confessing early, never speaking low of each other, and trusting the Holy Spirit to convict all protect a marriage.

About Michael & Tania Koehler Michael and Tania Koehler lead Marriage Mania Ministry, where they have been strengthening marriages for more than 11 years. They teach a biblical view of marriage roles and offer resources including a book, The Helper: The Role of a Biblical Wife Bible study, and gratitude journals.

In This Episode Called early — Leading marriage ministry just three months after their wedding. Teaching from weakness — Growing in your own marriage while helping others. Biblical roles — What Ephesians 5, Colossians 3, and 1 Peter 3 teach husbands and wives. Back to Genesis 3 — How marriage roles connect to the curse Christ reverses. Flesh vs. Spirit — Michael's internal battle that Tania misread. Quick to listen — Why James 1:19 matters in everyday conflict. Little foxes — Confessing struggles before they grow into huge foxes. Words that build — Never speaking low of each other, from Ephesians 4:29. Let the Spirit convict — Trusting the Holy Spirit instead of nagging. Community — Why support from other believers is vital for healthy marriages.

Scripture Referenced Genesis 3 Ephesians 4:29 Ephesians 5 Colossians 3 1 Peter 3 James 1:19

Resources from This Episode Marriage Mania Ministry Marriage Mania Ministry on Instagram Marriage Mania Ministry on Facebook Marriage Mania Ministry on YouTube Michael and Tania's book The Helper: The Role of a Biblical Wife Bible study (digital download) Gratitude Journals Shop Marriage After God resources Full show notes and blog post

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