5 Communication Mistakes Christian Couples Make (And How to Fix Them)

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About This Episode Everything you do sends a message, especially in marriage. In this episode we look at communication as a gift from God, drawing parallels to how He communicates with us, and then get honest about five mistakes we have made in our own marriage: failing to really listen, speaking harshly or interrupting, avoiding difficult conversations, assuming instead of asking, and letting anger take control. For each one we share a biblical fix and a practical step, from active listening and soft answers to going directly to your spouse and dealing with anger before the day is done. Whether you are still in the honeymoon phase or decades in, we pray this helps you and your spouse have deeper, more meaningful conversations.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Communication as a gift — how God communicates with us and why it matters in marriage Mistake 1: Failing to listen — distraction and waiting for your turn to speak Mistake 2: Speaking harshly — interrupting and abrupt words Mistake 3: Avoiding difficult conversations — and how to approach them instead Mistake 4: Assuming instead of asking — why questions beat conclusions Mistake 5: Letting anger take control — self-control and not letting the sun go down on your anger Active listening — repeating back what you heard and asking clarifying questions Setting the atmosphere — Jesus reconciling with Peter over breakfast

Scripture Referenced Proverbs 15:1 — a soft answer turns away wrath Matthew 18:15 — going directly to the person with an offense

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