Navigating a Sexless Marriage: Advice and Hope for Couples

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About This Episode Is your marriage struggling with a lack of intimacy? Aaron and Jennifer Smith share their own story of a sexless marriage in their early years, when painful intimacy left them discouraged for four years, and what God taught them along the way. They explain why sex is a vital part of marriage but shouldn't define the whole relationship, and trace the causes of a sexless marriage from medical issues like vaginismus and hormone-mimicking ingredients to spiritual and emotional factors. Grounding the conversation in Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7, and Proverbs 5, they expose the lies of discouragement and incompatibility and offer practical steps for couples: pray for endurance, keep pursuing each other, seek more than one medical opinion, communicate openly, avoid romance novels and pornography, and celebrate small wins.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Their story — four years of painful, unconsummated intimacy early in marriage Don't define your marriage by sex — why it's vital but not everything Common causes — medical, hormonal, spiritual, and emotional factors A biblical view of sex — good, honorable, and meant for both bonding and children Fighting discouragement — the lies of hopelessness and incompatibility "It was the moment we lost hope" — why holding on to hope matters Practical steps — praying for endurance, pursuing each other, and seeking multiple medical opinions Avoiding pitfalls — why romance novels and pornography make things worse Celebrating small wins — encouraging each other along the way

Scripture Referenced Hebrews 13:4 1 Corinthians 7 Proverbs 5

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