How To Learn To Love What Your Spouse Loves And What God Loves

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About This Episode How do you determine what's important in your marriage, and what do you do when your interests and hobbies are different from your spouse's? In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer Smith explore the art of learning alongside each other and choosing to like what each other loves. Drawing on Jeremy and Audrey Roloff's principle of sharing and a quote from A Severe Mercy, they explain how entering into your spouse's interests weaves a thousand strands of connection. They share practical ways to start: invite yourself in, ask questions, give time, invest money, and encourage your spouse. Then they turn to learning what God loves, from cheerful giving to justice to people, by searching His word and loving the body of Christ.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Jennifer's update — an honest look at her three-year weight-loss journey Different interests — navigating hobbies you don't share The principle of sharing — insight from Jeremy and Audrey Roloff A Severe Mercy — "if one of us likes anything there must be something to like in it" A thousand strands — how shared interests deepen your connection Practical steps — invite yourself in, ask questions, give time, invest money, and encourage What God loves — cheerful giving, justice, and people Searching His word — learning to love what God loves Loving the body of Christ — extending that love to God's people

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