Give More Love Than You Take In Your Marriage

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About This Episode The word love gets used for so many things, from pets to food, from clothing to cars. So what does it mean when we tell our spouse, I love you? How will our spouse, children, and friends know the difference between our love for things and our love for them? In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer explore how the word may have been diluted and how to revive its meaning for the people it should mean the most to. They make the case that love is proven by action, that keeping score poisons a marriage, and that the way of Christ is to give more than you take.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode One word, many meanings — How we use love for everything from pets to cars More than a feeling — A Harvard brain-scan study of dopamine and the limits of feelings-based love Love is a verb — Why love is proven by action Christ's example — Christ giving Himself up for the church as the model for marriage The balance-scale trap — How keeping a ledger turns love into a transaction Forgiveness wipes out the debt — The fastest way to reconcile The Good Samaritan — Giving without expecting anything back Paul the tentmaker — Working so he could give rather than take Give more than you take — Why Christ never came to take

Scripture Referenced Ephesians 5 Acts 20

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