Stop Saying One Thing Yet Doing Another

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About This Episode How often have you intended to do something or change in some way, but did not follow through? Whether it is a promise to your spouse or to yourself, words have power, and when we use them to make commitments we should take them seriously. Our vows may not sound like I promise; they may sound like I'll be there at 10 or I'm going to read my Bible every morning. In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer talk about the discrepancy between what we say and what we do, why it happens, how it hurts the people we love, and how to walk in integrity by grace.

About Aaron & Jennifer Smith Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.

In This Episode Everyday vows — Why I'll be there at 10 and I'll pray for you are promises too The word discrepancy — The gap between what we say and what we do Real-life examples — Jennifer's coffee habit and Aaron's promise to wake the kids for workouts Why we make hollow promises — Pleasing people, disordered lives, and simply forgetting Let your yes be yes — What Jesus and James teach about oaths The sacrifice of fools — Ecclesiastes on rash words and unpaid vows Words and trust — How broken promises erode self-perception and a spouse's trust Practical steps — Saying yes or no instead of maybe, and taking time before committing Grace for the journey — Only Jesus perfectly controlled His tongue, and God never goes back on His word

Scripture Referenced James 5:12 Matthew 5:37 Proverbs 18:21 Ecclesiastes 5:2, 4-5

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